Intensity ≠ Intimacy: Understanding Relationship Levels — **How to Build Relationships That Feel Safe**

This course explores how complex trauma shapes the way we connect and why so many of us confuse intensity with intimacy, rush closeness, or avoid it altogether.
Through the story of Jordan, you’ll gain insight into common relationship patterns and learn practical tools for pacing connection, setting boundaries, and building trust. With reflection prompts and gentle reframes, this course offers a compassionate path toward relationships that feel safe, steady, and real. Healing begins not with perfection, but with learning to connect in ways that truly honor who you are.

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Course Curriculum

- Welcome Video
- Introduction
Learn why intensity isn’t the same as intimacy, and how understanding the different levels of relationships can protect your energy, set healthier boundaries, and open the door to safer, more balanced connections.
Lesson • Video • Journal • Exercise • Practice
This lesson unpacks why fast, intense connections can feel safe but often lead to hurt. You’ll explore how early trauma fuels urgency in relationships and learn how slowing down creates trust, safety, and healthier bonds.
Lesson • Video • Journal • Exercise • Practice
This lesson explores how to tell the difference between chemistry and true safety in relationships. You’ll learn to recognize healthy qualities like consistency and emotional maturity, so you can build connections that feel steady, trustworthy, and real.
Lesson • Video • Journal • Exercise • Practice
This lesson shows why slowing down matters and how rushing often comes from old survival fears. You’ll learn to replace urgency with steadiness, making space for trust, respect, and relationships that last.
Lesson • Video • Journal • Exercise • Practice
This lesson looks at the hidden obstacles trauma creates in relationships—from fear of abandonment and loneliness to struggles with boundaries and trust. You’ll uncover how old survival patterns keep repeating and begin learning what it takes to break free.
Lesson • Journal
This lesson uncovers how childhood experiences of neglect, inconsistency, or control shape the way we attach as adults. You’ll see why old wounds make healthy love feel risky or unfamiliar, and begin to recognize the patterns that keep you from feeling secure in relationships.
Lesson • Journal
This lesson explores how trauma can confuse intensity with intimacy and offers a clearer picture of what real connection feels like. You’ll discover how safety, honesty, and reciprocity create relationships that settle the nervous system and invite lasting healing.
Lesson • Journal