EVERGREEN Love Languages and Complex Trauma Course — **If love has ever felt confusing, painful, or out of reach, you’re not alone.**

In this self-guided course, you will explore why love can feel unsafe, how your early experiences shaped your patterns, and how you can begin rewriting your story with compassion.
You will follow the journey of Samantha, someone untangling her past and rediscovering love. Alongside her story, you will reflect on your own experiences, practice re-parenting moments that speak truth and care to your inner child, and gain practical insights into how love languages show up in your life. Each lesson builds step by step, and you will move at your own pace—without pressure, without judgment.

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Get unlimited access to Tim Fletcher Co’s Evergreen library for just $30 per month, or $300 per year. With six new self-development courses added every month, you’ll always have fresh, practical tools to support your growth in areas like trauma recovery, boundaries, relationships, and personal transformation. Learn at your own pace, revisit lessons anytime, and build lasting change with guidance that’s both compassionate and deeply practical. See more details here.

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Course Curriculum

- Welcome Video
- Introduction
In this lesson, you’ll reflect on the early messages you received about love and how they shaped your beliefs. Many of us grew up with love that was distant, inconsistent, or conditional, leaving us unsure of what safe love looks like. By revisiting those roots, you’ll begin to see that you are worthy of love as you are—and take the first steps toward receiving it in healthier ways.
Lesson • Journal • Video
In this lesson, you’ll explore the five love languages and begin identifying which ones feel most natural to you. Many of us grew up in homes where love was inconsistent, conditional, or absent, which can make certain languages feel unsafe or confusing. By naming your own love language, you’ll start to see that your needs are human—and that healthy love can be expressed in ways that truly reach you.
Lesson • Journal • Video
In this lesson, you’ll explore how past pain can twist the way love is given and received. Many of us learned to associate love with fear, performance, or manipulation, leaving us unsure of what’s real. By naming these distortions, you’ll begin to clear the fog and make space for love that feels safe again.
Lesson • Journal • Video
Here, you’ll reflect on old survival patterns that shaped how you approach love. Because many of us had to earn or protect ourselves from affection, healthy connection can feel awkward at first. This lesson helps you practice new ways of showing love that feel more natural and true.

Lesson • Journal • Video
This lesson invites you to notice the barriers that make it hard to fully take in care and kindness. Trauma often leaves us suspicious of good things, waiting for the other shoe to drop. By practicing openness, you’ll discover that love can be received without fear or guilt.

Lesson • Journal • Video
In this module, you’ll explore how the five love languages can be turned inward as powerful tools for self-care. By learning to express love to yourself through words, actions, time, gifts, and touch, you’ll discover which practices nurture your own healing most deeply. This shift helps build resilience, calm your nervous system, and create a stronger foundation of self-worth.

Lesson
In this lesson, you’ll explore how love languages can become tools for reparenting the younger parts of you. Many of us never received the safety, joy, or unconditional love we needed growing up, leaving those needs unmet. By learning to nurture your inner child, you’ll begin creating the care and comfort you always deserved.

Lesson • Exercise
Additional resources and course conclusion.

**This course is included in the Relationships and Complex Trauma Bundle.**

Save 50% on all three courses when you purchase them together.

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FAQs

Many people feel uneasy with affection, praise, or closeness—not because they're broken, but because love wasn't modeled safely growing up. This course helps you gently explore those early messages and understand why love might still feel confusing today.
Love languages are ways we express and receive love—like words of affirmation, acts of service, or physical touch. But if you’ve experienced emotional pain or inconsistency, these languages may feel unfamiliar or even triggering. The course unpacks how to discover your love language and use it in a safe, empowering way.
The way love was shown—or withheld—in childhood often shapes how we experience connection now. If love was tied to guilt, punishment, or performance, it can lead to distorted beliefs like “I have to earn love.” This course walks you through those patterns and offers a path to rewrite them.
Absolutely. Trauma can make certain love languages feel unsafe, manipulative, or meaningless. For example, being praised might trigger suspicion, or a hug might feel threatening. This course explores how trauma distorts each love language—and how to heal those responses over time.
Yes. Even if love feels awkward or unnatural now, it can be learned—just like a second language. In this course, you’ll explore practical steps for expressing love outside your comfort zone, at a pace that feels safe and real.
When your early relationships taught you to please, perform, or protect, those habits can carry into adulthood. This course helps you recognize those patterns and replace them with grounded, self-respecting ways of relating to others.