Relationship Sabotage and How to Stop Doing It

Relationships and Connection
Written By Tim Fletcher Co.

Have you ever pulled back when someone got close, ghosted without knowing why, or walked away from a good relationship with no clear reason? You may have blamed yourself, but these patterns often begin as survival strategies.

In this course, you will explore how early experiences shaped your responses to closeness and safety, and how those responses can resurface in adulthood as withdrawal, avoidance, criticism, or chasing chaos. Through the story of Ava and guided lessons, you’ll learn to recognize your patterns, uncover the fears beneath them, and begin practicing new ways of relating.

Each lesson offers reflection questions, practical tools, and grounding practices to help you move toward relationships that feel steadier and more secure.

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 Course Curriculum

    • Welcome Video

    • Introduction

  • Learn how early wounds create patterns that make love feel unsafe, and why sabotage often shows up as protection, not failure.

    Lesson • Journal • Video

  • Recognize the subtle ways sabotage plays out in day-to-day relationships, and how they often hide deeper fears and unmet needs.

    Lesson • Journal • Video

  • Explore why familiar dynamics feel magnetic, even when painful, and uncover the blueprint shaping your relationship choices.

    Lesson • Journal • Video

  • Practice noticing early warning signs and using simple tools to interrupt sabotage in the moment, creating new relational possibilities.

    Lesson • Journal • Video

  • Shift old beliefs of unworthiness into new truths of safety and love, and begin writing a different relational story for yourself.

    Lesson • Journal • Video

  • Additional resources and conclusion.

 
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